Background noise comes in so many shapes and sizes. It could be a turned on TV when you are not watching it. It could be cars, trucks or trains going by while you are walking down a busy street. It could be the clinking of dishes and various conversations being carried on in a restaurant.
Really, it could be just about anything.
Some background noise can be soothing. I like to have some music playing when I’m working or studying. It really gets me in a sort of concentration trance. And I can’t sleep at night unless I’ve got the “white noise” of a fan or the air conditioner running.
But most background noise is just a huge distraction. My desk that I work from at home is within earshot of the TV in the living room. If I’m at my desk studying or reading or writing and the TV is on, I can count on constantly losing my focus because of keywords that I hear on the TV that instantly pull my attention away from what I am doing. And if there are coworkers carrying on a conversation within earshot of my desk I struggle to keep my concentration.
But background noise doesn’t just come in an unavoidable way. Background noise can also be the woman that you keep in contact with while you are in a relationship with someone else. It’s not the same type of background noise, but it is background noise just the same.
And it is also a huge distraction.
It’s just not possible to keep all of your attention on the woman you are with if you constantly have that background noise present…at least for me it’s not.
Now, looking at my current situation…43 years old and have never been married…you’re going to come to one of two conclusions: either I know nothing at all about relationships, or I know more than most.
I certainly don’t proclaim to be an expert on them, but one thing that I do know is that they are not at all easy. A successful relationship takes a lot of work. They say that it is 50/50, and that is true, as long as your 50% of the relationship is 100% commitment by you. And how can you be 100% committed to someone and making them happy if you have even the smallest of percentages tied up with someone else? Giving them any amount of time at all is taking away from what you should be devoting to your girlfriend/wife. It is so hard to do that I can’t even be talking to two women at one time even if I’m not dating either of them seriously. It just means that I can’t concentrate fully on one or the other. I can’t truly be getting to know them both as good as I need to be if I’m trying to get to know them both at the same time. Maybe that’s a personal thing, and it’s just me that can’t do this. But, I know that most people who have tried have never been able to pull it off. Most of the successful relationships that I know started with each person fully committed to getting to know the other.
It’s not impossible, and I’m sure there are those out there that can do it. But it’s certainly not for me. For me it’s just background noise, the kind that’s a distraction.
Really, it could be just about anything.
Some background noise can be soothing. I like to have some music playing when I’m working or studying. It really gets me in a sort of concentration trance. And I can’t sleep at night unless I’ve got the “white noise” of a fan or the air conditioner running.
But most background noise is just a huge distraction. My desk that I work from at home is within earshot of the TV in the living room. If I’m at my desk studying or reading or writing and the TV is on, I can count on constantly losing my focus because of keywords that I hear on the TV that instantly pull my attention away from what I am doing. And if there are coworkers carrying on a conversation within earshot of my desk I struggle to keep my concentration.
But background noise doesn’t just come in an unavoidable way. Background noise can also be the woman that you keep in contact with while you are in a relationship with someone else. It’s not the same type of background noise, but it is background noise just the same.
And it is also a huge distraction.
It’s just not possible to keep all of your attention on the woman you are with if you constantly have that background noise present…at least for me it’s not.
Now, looking at my current situation…43 years old and have never been married…you’re going to come to one of two conclusions: either I know nothing at all about relationships, or I know more than most.
I certainly don’t proclaim to be an expert on them, but one thing that I do know is that they are not at all easy. A successful relationship takes a lot of work. They say that it is 50/50, and that is true, as long as your 50% of the relationship is 100% commitment by you. And how can you be 100% committed to someone and making them happy if you have even the smallest of percentages tied up with someone else? Giving them any amount of time at all is taking away from what you should be devoting to your girlfriend/wife. It is so hard to do that I can’t even be talking to two women at one time even if I’m not dating either of them seriously. It just means that I can’t concentrate fully on one or the other. I can’t truly be getting to know them both as good as I need to be if I’m trying to get to know them both at the same time. Maybe that’s a personal thing, and it’s just me that can’t do this. But, I know that most people who have tried have never been able to pull it off. Most of the successful relationships that I know started with each person fully committed to getting to know the other.
It’s not impossible, and I’m sure there are those out there that can do it. But it’s certainly not for me. For me it’s just background noise, the kind that’s a distraction.
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